Depressed? You’re Not Weak, You’re Strong
It’s a common assumption that depression affects those who aren’t strong enough aka people with depression are weak. What’s worse is when people with depression themselves blame their lack of strength for being the reason they are depressed. But the truth is that depressed people are strong, not weak.
Depression Doesn’t Discriminate
I’ve seen and heard of people from all walks of life–irrespective of factors like age, race, gender, religion, profession, appearance, fame, and success–struggle with depression. And I’m sure you’ve observed this phenomenon as well. The reason behind this is plain and simple – depression is an illness, a disease of the mind. When cancer doesn’t discriminate, why will depression? Anyone can be depressed, even if they have everything going for them. After all, depression doesn’t always show up for a reason. Even if it does show up in your life due to some disturbing or stressful life event, it does not mean you are not strong enough. When we beat ourselves up for being blue, I’ve realized that typically stigma, self-stigma, and stereotypes are to blame.
What Makes You Strong
Depression is potent because it limits one’s capabilities. For me, it impacts my peace of mind, productivity, energy levels, and income, among many other things that matter to me. Indeed, the blues have negatively affected my quality of life. While healthy coping mechanisms have helped me function better, there are times when I catch myself wishing I were not « so mentally weak ». But the thing is, spoonies like you and I are much stronger than the normies. We are pushing forward and living in spite of all the difficulties the black dog called depression throws in our path virtually every single day. The fact that we are trying to live our best lives with serious issues like suicidal ideation, brain fog, and anhedonia bogging us down makes us strong. In fact, we aren’t merely strong, we are brave warriors.
Help Yourself Defeat Stigma
Sadly, this knowledge alone cannot save you – especially when people around you are busy perpetuating toxic stereotypes. It’s important to have a system in place when you feel too tired or inadequate to carry on. Check out the video below to know how I build myself up when depression tries its best to tear me down.
What do you do to ensure you feel good or even okay when depression hits? Please let me know in the comments below.