How To Embrace Your Fears — Calm Blog
Confronting your fears can be daunting because it forces us to acknowledge the things that make us most uncomfortable, whether that’s petting a large dog or recognizing our mortality. For some, even the thought of facing our fears is enough to trigger an emotional or physical response. Figuring out why you want to embrace fear can help make the process easier, Michelle says.
“My ‘why’ was to become a braver person, not only for myself but also for my family and my future kids,” Michelle explains. “I wanted to become a mom in the future, and I was like, ‘I need the tools and the right mindset to be the best mom that I can.’ I had this huge purpose in mind, and when I identified that I knew my project was going to be successful.”
Secondly, it helps to reframe how we view fear. Instead of thinking of fear as something that needs to be conquered and eliminated, think of it as something that can help you grow.
“People assume that in order to tackle a fear or feel braver, you need to become fearless, have no fears,” Michelle says. But you can’t get rid of fear—it’s wired into our neurological systems. It’s how we “work with our fears” that will define who we are, Michelle adds.
Another perspective, she offers, is asking not what you have to lose by facing your fears, but what you have to gain. “The question I would ask people is what’s the best that can happen if you do that, if you take that risk, because when we’re about to face a fear, we forget about the best-case scenario,” she says. Trust in your intentions and remind yourself that discomfort is a fleeting feeling; the rewards, on the other hand, will last us a lifetime.