The Anxiety of Loneliness | HealthyPlace
I’ve been living in a new place for nearly three months, and the anxiety of loneliness is getting to me. This place is more removed from basically all of my close friends and family, so I’m not going to be able to visit them as often as I once was. Obviously this is been difficult for me. This blog is my attempt to try and come to terms with that.
Anxiety Due to Loneliness, Not Necessarily Being Alone
I live in a large city – it would be impossible for me to be alone here. But the paradoxical thing about that it it’s actually really easy to feel lonely. Overcoming loneliness is a matter of finding a genuine connection with someone, and that isn’t as easy as it sounds. As much as it helps to try to put yourself out there and meet other new people, sometimes it just doesn’t happen. So when your primary group somehow becomes more distant, it can be difficult to replace.
How to Combat the Anxiety of Loneliness
If you are in a similar situation as I am, though it is less than ideal, there are ways that you can feel less lonely. The obvious one would be to do as much as possible to continue communicating with them digitally. Modern technology has given us endless options to keep in close contact with people even if they’re far away. There’s no substitute for actually being there with the person, but in the absence of any alternatives doing that is an invaluable strategy.
Now, the tricky thing is actually finding other people around you to further mitigate the anxiety of loneliness. It’s tricky because, as I said before, it isn’t like you can just choose to find a new close friend and then have it magically be so. The close friends I have now didn’t come about because I actively sought them out – actually, for most of them, I don’t even remember how I met them because, I’m assuming, the circumstances were so everyday that the details weren’t worth remembering.
All this may make it seem like a hard thing to do. But actually, I don’t think it is. Because if one finds a close friend in the most everyday circumstances, all you have to do is continue your everyday life and eventually something will come of it.
I will say, though, that the most important aspect of this whole process is always keeping an open heart for the prospect of finding a new friend. If you’ve closed yourself off, if you’ve consigned yourself to loneliness for the rest of your life, then you’ve already lost. But keeping your heart open means that any potential interaction has the capability of transforming into a lifelong friendship. Will it happen all the time? Of course not. But I would argue that it’s better to live under the shadow of that potentiality than to have given up.
Have you experienced the anxiety of loneliness? Tell me your story in the comments.
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